Civility - The Only True Game Changer In Town.

At a time of social breakdown and increasing adversarialism, no greater time than now would be the attempt to resurrect two critical words from a meaningless death: community and civility.
Donald Trump has no strategy, no beliefs, and no principles.
For America, community has to do with communication , and real community should imply a sustained and high quality of national communication among its members.
What lacks is the mission plus the skill to teach the principles of community, by which is meant healthy and authentic communication with and between groups.
Make yourself stronger than your excuses.
An English gentleman of the last century, Oliver Hereford, who is famed for saying "A gentleman is someone who never hurts another person's feelings unintentionally" may help us to arrive at a more meaningful definition for the greater need of civility.
Linguistic Analysis: Without Twitter, Donald Trump Would Not Be in the White House Today

So, within this demonstrated case in point: the key is intention, the meaning was awareness of what your doing, and the moral; awareness always requires consciousness to be civil.
Perhaps, a book on the subject , A World Waiting to Be Born: Civility Rediscovered, sums up Americas 2020 election plight best.
Stylistic variation on the Donald Trump Twitter account: A linguistic analysis of tweets posted between 2009 and 2018
The book defines "civility" not as mere superficial politeness, but as a consciously motivated organizational behavior that is ethical in submission to a higher power.


It can be assumed that anyone who made the choice to be conscious wants to be a civil person.  But there is a major problem here: in order to be civil, we must be conscious not only of our own motivations but also of the organization - or system - in which we are acing.

Civility requires organisational as well as individual consciousness. Consequently, if we aspire to even greater civility, we must increasingly think in terms of systems.
Trump Crime Family | One Percent Takers
The basic tenet of system theory (which is not a theory but a fact) is that everything now evolves around to serve the fabric of that society.
“Are you better off than you were four years ago?”

As 'We The People' continually wake up to the facts of this reality, system theory (historically) tells us why all levels of 2020's national elections must follow suite: that if you change one component of the system, all the other parts must also change.
Conservatism has become a racket, and Trump is the grifter in chief.
Only in the past few decades have we become somewhat aware of this fact, the system some day will eventually awaken into it's own nightmare reality: All repairs under trump mechanics can and will redundantly conk out.


The problem: sycophants either did not know how or were too afraid to calibrate in all of the subtle changes required that would maintain an engines operational system.

This hole in the mind - this unconsciousness concerning organization - has proven out daily that ones unbridled narcissism feeds others.
Trump’s dithering proves one thing: We’re at war without a leader.
The Worst Outcome: If somebody other than Donald Trump were in the White House, the coronavirus crisis would not be unfolding this way.
Trumpism's System has a common denominator: the narcissistic salesman is the most important core to the organization because their policies guide little empathy for the whole.
To bear false witness is to lie - especially when false pride sought to secure it's own selfishness gains.
Has trump proven self doer of God's Word or merely hearer who redundantly deludes self and others?



Nevertheless, there is no way on earth, that 'We The People' can evolve into a more civil society that the world would recognize or respect under made America's (Trustworthiness) Great Again, until even greater numbers of us are willing to demonstrate, having made the choice, not only to be personally conscious of ourselves, but also to think in terms of whole systems that expanded our awareness's - in order to fill the hole in the mind.


Other-words Simple English: under God's principles, nation proved itself out beyond all shadows of  the doubt, to have successfully overcome their narcissistic Goliath's - in no uncertain terms.

Educational Book Share: The Road Less Traveled and Beyond - Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety. M.Scott Peck, M.D.

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Growth and Will: In the end, of course, all qualifiers will inevitably fall into the hands of the living God, for the better or the worse under free will.

In some ways we understand much more clearly how people can learn in adulthood by active, deliberate choice.

What we do not understand is why?

We are now confronted with the extraordinary mystery of the human will.

Certain people seem to have been born with a strong will while others seem to be relatively weak willed.

The subject however, however, has never been studied scientifically.

We do not actually know whether there are differences in the strength of will or whether they are genetic or to what extent they are developed or learned.

It is an extremely mysterious matter and represents a wide-open frontier for psychological research.

In any case, it is well believed that a strong will is one of the greatest blessing that can be bestowed upon a human being.

Additionally many believe this not because a strong will necessarily guarantees success - IT MAY BACKFIRE AND CREATE A HITLER, for example - but because a weak will pretty much guarantees failure. 

For instance, it is strong willed people - those with the mysterious will to grow - who do well no matter what their childhood or background was like, no matter what the odds. On the other hand, other people who seem to lack this mysterious will to grow may possess all manner of assets-great ideas and talents - yet they sit on their duffs, getting noplace.


Still, yet, as 'We The People' have redundantly pointed out, all blessing are potential curses, and one downside of a strong will is a bad temper.

It is strong willed people who wrap golf clubs around trees because the damn little ball won't go where they want it to go. Strong-willed people have a lot of learning to do to effectively manage their anger.

In Further along the Road Less Traveled, author wrote that he used to explain to his patients that having a Weak Will is like having a little donkey in your backyard.

It can't hurt you very much; about the worst it can do is chomp some of your tulips. But tit cant help you very much either, and you could end up with a life of regrets for not doing things you thought you should do.

Having a strong will, on the other hand, is like having a dozen Clydesdales in your backyard. Those horses are massive and extremely strong, and if they are not properly trained, disciplined, and harnessed, they will knock your house down.

On the other hand, if they are properly trained, disciplined, and harnessed, then with them you can literally move mountains.

Thus the distinction between the harnessed and unharnessed will is important.

But what to what is the will to be harnessed?



Your will cannot be simply harnessed to yourself. It has to be harnessed to a power higher than yourself. 

In his book Will and Spirit, the first chapter of which is entitled "Willingness and Willfulness," Gerald May writes that willfulness characterizes the unharnessed human will, whereas willingness identifies the strong will of a person who is willing to go where he or she is called or led by a higher power.




Furthermore, given the relationship between willingness and a higher power, it is no coincidence as wrote in The Road Less Traveled that the will to grow is in essence the same phenomenon as love.

Defined Love as the will is to extend selves for ones own spiritual growth or another's.
Genuinely loving people are, by definition, growing people.

It has been spoken throughout the Bible many times how the capacity to love is nurtured in one by loving parents, but also noted that parental nurturing alone fails to account for the existence of this capacity in all people.

Thus, as world community we have to come to believe that peoples capacity to love, hence their will to grow, is nurtured not only during childhood by loving parents but also throughout their lives by grace, or God's Love.

Yet we are left with the question of why some people continue to show a will to grow throughout life, while many shun not only growth but the responsibility that comes with learning.

Mysterious though it is, the choice to actively learn as an Adult and Devote one's will consciously to growth and learning is the most crucial decision one ever makes in life.

But when is this choice made? Again, the issue has not been scientifically studied in the way it should.

Mental health professionals have broadly suggested throughout time, there is no evidence that the choice is made in childhood. But it can be made as early as mid-adolescence. People as young as fifteen and sixteen have written letters in response to topical mental health books that affirmed clearly to have already made that choice.

To enter into knowledge and major in all of  the hard sciences known would be quite difficult or simply recognized the value behind 'whats the point of majoring in something that's easy for you.'

Sometimes it comes during periods of taking stock, as in the middle of a crisis.

In most cases, discerned, the choice is made repeatedly. Decision evolved into an active learner mode that grew stronger and stronger as  remade and remade, till choice recalls the moments that cemented the choice.


Personal style, for the most part of life, is simply defined as having learned from experiences. That is why contemplatives are generally described  as the someones who take a little bit of experience and milks it for all it's worth. It's not simply a matter of how much experience you have in life but what you do with it. 

We all know people who have accomplished many tasks, or done this and that which seems to amount to a broad range of experiences, but whom seem naive or confused as ever.

Just going around having different experiences is worthless if one does not learn something about oneself and the rest of the world from those experiences.

That's why it is important to be alert not only to external but to internal experiences that serve our Spiritual Growth.

Thus a large part of the willingness to learn must include learning by looking within.



Specific to the point is a quote from the philosopher Soren Kierkegaard, who said: "A man may perform astonishing feats and comprehend a vast amount of knowledge , and yet have no understanding of himself. But suffering directs a man to look within. If it succeeds, then there, within him, is the beginning of his learning."

Ultimately, someone whose will has become devoted to learning and growth is someone whose will is clearly in alignment with God's purpose. That does not mean, however, that such person is conscious of this fact, or the they see themselves as being in "harmony with an unseen order of things." They may consider themselves to be agnostic. Yet even many who do not identify God as their higher power  may show a willingness to submit themselves to something they consider greater than themselves - perhaps the ideas of Love, Light, and Truth.

In the end, of course, all of these qualities have something to do with God. Nonetheless, it has been  within  many an impression over time that such people continue over the years and the decades to devote their will to learning and growth, and almost inevitably will fall into the hands of the living God, and their soul will be in a personal relationship with it's creator and nurturer.
Educational Book Share: The Road Less Traveled and Beyond - Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety. M.Scott Peck, M.D.

Ezekiel 28:13 - Commentary & Verse Meaning - Bible

When God's about to Abandon a Nation: It is always instructive how relevantly it speaks to our time and to our lives that will be true.

Thinking and Listening.

Given our almost additive reliance on assumptions-and on the illusions that coexisted with them-we often communicate with others, creating great chaos.

The continuous polarization's along lines in  aftermaths are the glaring examples of 'We The People' failed to question our own assumptions that we need be ashamed of.


Our failures to question our own assumptions have redundantly enabled America's failures simply because-as a nation we refused to really hear what was being communicated to us. We remained oblivious toward the fundamentals behind the communications and still do having demonstrated learned nothing.

It should go without saying you can't truly communicate well if you don't listen well, and you are unable to listen well unless you are thinking well.

An industrial scientist once pointed out that the amount of time we devote to teaching certain subjects to our children in school is inversely proportional to the frequency with which they will make use of them when they grow up.

In most public and private schools, there is virtually no formal education on these crucial aspects of communicating.

A successful top executive will spend at least three-quarters of his or her time thinking and listening. They will spend a small fraction speaking and an even smaller fraction writing.

Yet the amount of formal education we get in developing these essential skills is inversely proportional to what is required to be an effective executive. The skills are, in fact, essentials in every aspect of our lives.

Many people think that thinking is a passive interaction. It is just the opposite.

Listening well is an active exercise or our attention and , by necessity, is hard work.

It is because one does not realize this or because they are no willing to do the work that people don't listen well.

When we extend ourselves by attempting to listen and communicate well, we take an extra step or walk an extra mile.



We do so in opposition to the inertia of laziness or the resistance of fear. It always requires hard work.

Listening well also requires total concentration upon another and is a manifestation of love in the broadest sense of the word.

An essential part of listening well is the discipline of bracketing, the temporary giving up or setting aside of your own prejudices, frames of reference, and desires in order to experience as far as possible another's world from the inside, stepping inside his or her shoes.

This unification of speaker and listener is actually an extension and enlargement of ourselves, and new knowledge is always gained from it.

Moreover, since listening well involves bracketing, it also involves a temporary acceptance of the other.

Sensing this acceptance, the speaker will feel less and less vulnerable and more and more inclined to open up the inner recesses of his or her mind to the listener.

As this happens, speaker and listener begin to understand each other better and better.


True communication is under way and the duet dance of love has begun.

The energy required for the discipline of bracketing and the focusing of total attention on another is so great that it can be accomplished only by love, which was defined as the will to extend oneself for mutual growth.

Most of the time we lack lack this energy.

Even though we may feel in our business dealings or social relationships that we are listening well, what we are usually doing is listening selectively.

Often, we have a preset agenda in mind and wonder as we listen how can we achieve certain desired results to get the conversation over with as quickly as possible or re-directed in ways more satisfactory to us.

Many of us are far more interested in talking then is listening , or we simply refuse to listen to what we don't want to hear.



While it is true that one's capacity to listen well may improve gradually with practice, it never becomes an effortless process.

Sometimes toward ends of careers, some leaders may go over somethings because they finally recognized that their mind had wandered.

The first few times done, they may have wondered while questioning  selves whether they had been listening at all or were simply resentful.

What truest leaders in global citizenship would have no fear of recognition in would be all of  those skeletons buried in their closet that intuitively ignored all vital elements of the capacity to listen well ignored being alert for those lapses when one was not truly listening.

Now self acknowledged and ready to confess as a world statesmen that their attention had actually wandered would  now be the time to realistically assure all nations that most of the time I was listening well.




It has been well established within the art of diplomacy that the knowledge that one is truly being listened to is frequently, in and of itself, remarkably therapeutic and quite beneficial towards all.

History has shown the world time and again whether negotiating with adults or children why bully diplomacy never worked simply due to the fact that before any of the roots of problems were uncovered or significant interpretations made, chief among them always came down to having  not truly listened and discerned properly.
The World now summoned into this stratosphere via Covid-19's wake up call toward all must now Ethically make those duty choice judgement calls {like it or not} concerning all actions taken by a self declared rouge world republic.

Educational Book Share: The Road Less Traveled and Beyond - Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety.

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Choices of Submission.

Evil, Sin, and Other Distinctions.

While important distinctions are to be made between evil and insanity, illness and sin, in the book 'People of the lie' the most important distinction to remember is that to name something correctly gives us a certain amount of power over it.

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Even in response to a question about ‘discipline,’ Trump showed none of it


Throughout the centuries it has been believed that evil can be defined as a specific form of mental illness and should be subject to at least the same intensity of scientific investigation that we would devote to some other major psychiatric disease.

Yet evil is still evil. Auschwitz and My Lai and and Jonestown and the Oklahoma City bombing are facts. Evil is not a figment of the imagination of some primitive religious mind attempting to explain the unknown. And it is more than just a "sickness."

 Given the state of world affairs, it's impossible to overlook the reality of evil if you are thinking with integrity. But there is wide spread denial in our country. Many downplay evil or hesitate to see it for what it truly is, in part because they don't want to appear to be acting arrogant or holier-than-thou. Indeed, it id quit common to read newspaper articles that describe those who commit a range of human atrocities as simply "sick."


Psychiatrists, in general believe that the word "sick" is more appropriately applied to those who are afflicted with something for which treatment or a cure is possible - and also desired. Although the evil are operating from a "sick" perspective, the difference is that many of those who are "sick" deal with their venom internally, turning it painfully upon themselves if they choose not to seek help.

Those who are evil go another way. They fail to suffer.

Because they lash out at others and use them as scapegoats, it is the people around them who must suffer.

Think of the ill effects caused by those who are addicted to a high opinion of themselves, to complacency and self-righteousness or far worse.



But a thinking disorder does not absolve someone of responsibility for his actions. We have the choice to think or not to think, and while evil should be considered a psychiatric diagnosis, that doesn't mean people shouldn't go to jail when they have committed a crime. Full agreement with the law, which most infrequently absolves people of a crime on the grounds of insanity. The reality is that whenever we have a choice, we should be held accountable.

In People of the Lie, it's boldly asserted that certain people are evil.
It is important that we make distinctions between evil people and ordinary criminals and between evil people and ordinary sinners.
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While many think that the problem of evil is confined to those already locked up, not all inmates are truly evil people. Obviously they are destructive, and usually repeatedly so. But there is another kind of randomness to their destructiveness. Moreover, although they generally deny responsibility for their evil deeds, there is still a quality of openness to their wickedness. They themselves are quick to point out, claiming they have been caught precisely because they are the "honest criminals." The truly evil, they will tell you, always reside outside of jail. Clearly, such proclamations are self-justifying. They are also, believed, generally accurate.

Of course, an evil deed does not an evil person make. Otherwise, we would all be designated evil, because we all do evil  things. But, it is widely believed it would be a mistake to think of sin or evil as simply a matter of degree. Sinning is most broadly defined and "missing the mark", which means we sin every time we fail to hit the bull's-eye. Sin is nothing less than a failure to be continually perfect, we are all sinners. We routinely fail to do the very best of which we are capable , and with each failure we commit a crime of sorts-against ourselves and others.

Of course, there are crimes of greater or lesser magnitude. It may seem less odious to cheat the rich than to cheat the poor, but it's still cheating.

There are differences before the law in defrauding a business, claiming false deduction on your income tax, telling your wife that you have to work late when you are being unfaithful, or telling your husband you don't have time to pick up his cloths at the cleaner when you spent an hour on the phone with a friend.
Surely some of these deeds are more excusable than others-and perhaps all the more so under certain circumstances- but the fact remains that they are all lies and betrayals.

The reality is that we do betray ourselves and others routinely. The worst of us do it blatantly, even compulsively. The noblest of us do it subtly and self-centeredly, even when we think we are trying not to do it. Whether it is done consciously or unconsciously is of no matter; the betrayal occurs. If you imagine you are sufficiently scrupulous never to have done any such thing, then ask yourself whether there is any way in which you lied to yourself. Or have Kidded yourself. Be perfectly honest with yourself and you will realize that you sin. If you do not realize it, then you are not perfectly honest with yourself, which is itself a sin.

Thus, we are all sinners to one degree or another.

But those who are evil cannot be strictly defined by the magnitude of their sins or the illegality of their deeds.

It is not their sins per se that characterize them; rather it is the subtlety and persistence and the consistency of their sins.

And underlying this consistency, what distinguishes those who are evil, will always be found within the extremes that they will go to in order to avoid the consciousness of their own evil.

Educational Book Share: The Road Less Traveled and Beyond - Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety.

When God's about to Abandon a Nation: It is always instructive how relevantly it speaks to our time and to our lives that will be true.

The Shadow Knows.

If America returned to God, Scripture promises that God would further bless not curse that nation: So far Americas action Odd's favor a due Curse over further Grace received of it's own free will.

Prepare to Meet Your God! "The handwriting is on the wall"

 and the outlook is grim.